Gratitude and self-compassion practice

In their words

“You should not judge yourself so harshly that you destroy yourself; instead, recognize your intrinsic worth despite your flaws and inadequacies.”

a clinical psychologist and Professor Emeritus of psychology

• Learning about your inner world and needs and taking care of yourself happens by building a healthy relationship with yourself and surrounding yourself with people who have healthy boundaries.

  a licensed mental health counselor

• To be a true giver, one must be able to give to themselves first to avoid feeling empty and prevent giving from becoming a chore or a strategy to get love.

  a certified relationship coach

• Love is not just a feeling but a choice, a practice, and a skill that requires showing up and effort even when not in the mood.

  a certified relationship coach

• Gratitude is not the result of a good relationship but the cause of it, as every happy couple both felt grateful and lucky to be in each other's lives.

  a certified relationship coach

• You don’t need to be the perfect version of yourself to be worthy; being present and authentic matters more than chasing perfection.

  a mental health counselor and author

• Practice spiritual self-compassion by looking in the mirror and affirming self-love to stop hiding and begin healing.

  a mental health counselor and author

• Groves encourages people to let themselves be happy and not postpone joy, as many regret not doing so at the end of life.

  a human connection specialist

• God changes your heart which then renews your mind, influencing your thoughts and behaviors.

  a personal trainer and health coach

• Pride can manifest not only as arrogance but also as harsh self-criticism and the unrealistic expectation of perfection, which still centers the self.

  a personal trainer and health coach

• True humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less, shifting focus away from the self rather than deflating or inflating ego.

  a personal trainer and health coach

• Love is a choice and a practice that stays alive when we feed it and nourish it, not just a feeling to be passively experienced.

  a certified relationship coach

• Every happy couple Jillian Turecki has worked with or known both felt grateful and lucky to be in each other's lives.

  a certified relationship coach

• You don’t need to be the ideal version of yourself to be worth something; being present and authentic matters more than chasing perfection.

  a mental health counselor and author

• There is no quick fix to insecurities; they are a pathway to personal development and require time to address their roots.

  the founder of ManTalks

• Expressing thanks and appreciation for small acts of communication helps avoidant women feel their internal reality is welcome in the relationship.

  the founder of ManTalks

• Accepting oneself on a deep level is essential for personal happiness and the ability to make others happy.

  a human connection specialist

• Letting go is better described as letting be, recognizing that your past cannot be changed but your relationship to it can be transformed.

  a human connection specialist

• It is beautiful, rich, and our pleasure and duty to help further that beauty and sacredness in reality.

  a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow

• We have a duty to see what is hopeful and do the bit we can in our own lives and further larger causes in ways we are best positioned to do.

  a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow

• Seeing clearly the beauty and suffering in reality motivates a sacred obligation to protect it.

  a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow

• The expert values humor as a vital, life-enhancing force that allows expression of difficult truths metaphorically and warns against puritanical suppression of humor as harmful.

  a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow

• Recovering a sense of awe, modesty, and compassion is essential to counteract the arrogance of believing we know all and to reconnect with what truly drives and guides life.

  a consultant psychiatrist and former Oxford fellow

• Dr. Phil advocates for compassion and recognizing the value of people beyond their physical appearance, noting that beauty is not the sole determinant of worth or character.

  a media host and psychologist with a lapsed clinical license

• Dr. Phil encourages individuals who are controlling to be their own best friend, test limits, do work on themselves selfishly, and seek help to deconstruct walls they have built.

  a media host and psychologist with a lapsed clinical license

• Self-acceptance is key to self-love; if you hate yourself, you are not accepting yourself, which undermines your ability to be loved and to love others.

  a certified relationship coachsponsored

• Being aware of and changing cruel self-talk to kind, encouraging language is game-changing for increasing self-love and self-acceptance.

  a certified relationship coachsponsored

• Shame from self-hatred is harmful, but guilt and shame can be useful if they lead to accountability without spiraling into victimhood; compassion for oneself enables growth and healthier relationships.

  a certified relationship coachsponsored

• We learn to love ourselves more through relationships, as others reflect back our value and help us see ourselves differently.

  a certified relationship coachsponsored

• Challenging oneself to face discomfort, such as practicing affirmations or changing habits, is necessary to raise self-esteem and develop self-love.

  a certified relationship coachsponsored

• People often say negative things to themselves like 'stupid' or 'ugly' which harms self-esteem; becoming aware and stopping this negative self-talk is essential for a healthier relationship with oneself.

  a certified relationship coachsponsored

• Encouraging self-compassion and reducing self-criticism during the healing process helps individuals recognize their strength and resilience.

  a certified relationship coach

• Concealing parts of oneself due to shame or unworthiness leads to matching with partners who want a perfect image, causing withdrawal when true vulnerability emerges; healthy self-esteem and self-acceptance are crucial to avoid this pattern.

  a certified relationship coachsponsored

• Practicing gratitude for having a good relationship helps to wipe out fear and anxiety about losing it, fostering a healthier mindset.

  a certified relationship coachsponsored

• Beliefs about self-worth, love, and relationships profoundly influence anxiety and behavior in relationships, so understanding and challenging these beliefs is essential for healing.

  a certified relationship coachsponsored

• Doing something nice for oneself, like buying flowers or a small gift, helps counteract harsh self-criticism common in people feeling stuck or down.

  a certified relationship coachsponsored

• Sometimes self-love means deleting a former partner's number and booking a trip to reconnect with oneself after a relationship ends.

  a certified relationship coachsponsored

Hear every voice

With care

Some of the minds attach conditions. These are worth reading before you begin.

• Dr. Phil acknowledges that some guests recognize their judgmental attitudes and express a desire to work on themselves, indicating that change is possible with self-awareness.

  a media host and psychologist with a lapsed clinical license

• Complete self-love is not required to be in a healthy relationship, but inability to see one's value is a top reason for relationship problems, especially romantic ones.

  a certified relationship coachsponsored

• Compassion involves allowance, understanding, and appreciation and is a human trait that may be associated with femininity but transcends gender.

  a certified relationship coachsponsored