Daycare and non-parental childcare
Children under 3
Most of the experts we follow would steer you away from it.
Putting children into daycare too early can cause pathological defences or attachment disorders leading to ADHD-like behaviour, depression, anxiety,...
Who is behind it
Voices including a psychoanalyst and author of Being There, a clinical psychologist and Professor Emeritus of psychology and a media host and psychologist with a lapsed clinical license.
How strong the research is
Mostly expert experience so far, with published research still catching up.
In their words
“Putting children into daycare too early can cause pathological defenses or attachment disorders leading to ADHD-like behavior, depression, anxiety, aggression, and behavioral problems.”
a psychoanalyst and author of Being There
When leaving a child, ensure they are with someone they love and know, such as a surrogate attachment figure like a nanny or family member, to maintain emotional security.
Casual agreements without clear hours and duties can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, so explicit contracts and expectations are necessary.
Early signs such as withdrawal, refusal to perform duties, and rough treatment of children should prompt immediate action to protect the family.
The community of Pawmont Trot adopted 76 older children that no one else wanted, demonstrating a responsible and positive way to care for vulnerable children and potentially eliminate the foster care system if replicated by other communities.
With care
Some of the minds attach conditions. These are worth reading before you begin.
Employers must follow legal eviction procedures even if the employee refuses to leave, but informal notices can cause confusion and delay resolution.
Fostering is a huge blessing and responsibility that changes you and is not for everyone; honesty about willingness and readiness is crucial to avoid resentment and to serve the child well
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Where they disagree
Both sides
For
When leaving a child, ensure they are with someone they love and know, such as a surrogate attachment figure like a nanny or family member, to maintain emotional security.
a psychoanalyst and author of Being ThereAgainst
Putting children into daycare too early can cause pathological defenses or attachment disorders leading to ADHD-like behavior, depression, anxiety, aggression, and behavioral problems.
a psychoanalyst and author of Being ThereMost of the minds lean away from this, and the few in favour are shown for fairness.
More on the other side
Leaving a child in daycare or with strangers, such as a gym daycare center, can cause distress and is not recommended for maintaining attachment security. a psychoanalyst and author of Being There
Daycare raises cortisol levels in babies, placing them in a stressed state during critical brain development, which is linked to higher aggression, anxiety, behavioral problems, and long-term attachment issues. a psychoanalyst and author of Being There
Putting children as young as six weeks in institutional care risks their emotional security during a critical brain development period. a psychoanalyst and author of Being There
Daycare is terrible for children and their developing brains, reflecting a lack of understanding of child development among policymakers and adults. a psychoanalyst and author of Being There
Talk it through
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How this reading was made
Every line here comes from a doctor, scientist or coach speaking publicly, and links to the moment they said it. Entrain listens for where independent experts arrive at the same place on their own, and shows where they part ways. Mostly expert experience so far, with published research still catching up.
Some statements come from sponsored segments or people speaking about their own products. They are marked where they appear and count for less. Last refreshed 19 August 2026.
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